Yep, there are people looking to scam you, no matter what method you are using to find someone to share your life with. This isn’t put out there to provoke paranoia, but rather to warn anyone looking for love to use diligence and listen to those feelings inside. If something within you feels that something is off, listen. Listen to the gut feeling. It’ll keep you from shelling out your life savings to someone in a café halfway across the globe or even someone who’s right down the street from you.

When changes come that seem ugly or unfounded, the way we deal with that change is a choice. We can be afraid and stand in bewilderment and outrage at what is happening to us and the world we’ve come to know, which causes a lot of dissonance, stress, anxiety and depression. 

Every morning we wake to bad news, pressure to start a new school year, pressure to get to that meeting on Zoom or in person, pressure to help bring in more money, pressure is in our lives every day.

How do I improve myself is a person specific question. There’s no quick recipe for self-improvement. It’s not a malady but a personal desire to change. The person may also have a mental illness that’s not properly managed, an addiction or even feel suicidal. Definitely not a question to be taken lightly with a quick quip.

Knowing how to love oneself and actually doing it is the hard part. We are the harshest of critics when it comes to ourselves and it’s not always easy to work past how we feel and what we have learned to believe. Change is a choice and knowing that you actually complete yourself is the key.